Photograph by Artem Labunsky
One in ten of us haven’t had sex since lockdown began in March, according to a new survey.
Anxiety and lack of sleep are the top reasons touted for lack of libido with most of us replacing ‘sex time with watching telly (a whopping 63 per cent).
Believe me, I get it. My husband and I have been hoovering up endless episodes as well.
We could all do with a bit of a boost in the bedroom.
Happily, I have just the products to provide it!
Like most things, sex gets better the more you do it and the more practised you are. This is why the title of my new book – Great Sex Starts at 50 – is true for lots of people!
Our personal experience of sex as we move through life is (obviously) deeply dependent on our life circumstances – and how we view them. You can be happily single or miserably waiting for love. Settled and content in a long-term relationship or trapped and suffocated.
But while everyone is different, we all move through similar experiences as we move through each decade.
Here’s what sex and love was like for me over the years – and the things I wish I’d known along the way!
Are you an adventurous ‘energiser’ or a ‘connector’ who’s more interested in connecting hearts than parts? A giving ‘stabliser’ or a ‘controller’ who likes routine?
We all have a sex personality and understanding each of yours is the key to having great sex together.
If you’re lucky enough to have hooked up with someone who has the same ‘sex personality’ as you, congratulations!
Connecting on this base level means you’ll probably have a lot less problems than most.
But what if that didn’t happen and the person you’re desperately, deeply in love with, is at the other end of the spectrum when it comes to sexual styles?
Are you doomed if your ‘sex personalities’ are different?
The answer, of course, is no.
In reality, perfect matches are rare because we tend to be attracted to our opposites in an unconscious attempt to balance ourselves.
The trick is understanding each other’s natural preferences and predilections, learning from each other rather than secretly considering your own personality the ‘right’ one and allowing your differences to complement each other.
Which sex personality most fits you and your partner?
Find out here, then share the info!
No Shame should be compulsory reading for all parents.
It’s – without a doubt – the best parenting guide on how to talk to your kids and teens about sex I’ve ever read.
Written by ‘The Shameless Psychiatrist’, Dr Lea Lis, it teaches you how to do it easily, honestly and naturally.
Do what she suggests, and your kids will grow up to be sexually well-educated, body-positive, gender-respectful adults, have high self-esteem and enjoy happy, healthy sex lives and relationships.
No Shame was released a week or so ago and Dr Lea kindly let me choose 10 absolute gems of information to share here.
All the wisdom is hers though I’ve paraphrased here and there and added a few bits from my experience.
So here you have it: ten key points to remember when educating your child about sex.