No time, bored or simply can’t be bothered?
These are just some of the excuses we drag out to explain why sex isn’t on the agenda.
But which of these excuses are legitimate and which are thinly disguised avoidance tactics?
Even more importantly, how do you get past those sexual sticking points and get things moving again?
Today is the publication day of my new book, Great Sex Starts at 50: How to age-proof your libido.
After writing 17 books about sex and relationships, I was seriously thinking, ‘What else can I say?”
Then I turned 50 and thought, ‘Whoa! What’s going on!?!’
I knew things happen to us sexually post 50 – I just never thought any of the negatives would happen to me!
Surely with that many books under my belt, a lifetime of talking and researching sex and being blessed with a lively libido would shield me from any horribleness ahead?
Talking about sex is something every couple should do but there are some things that should never, ever escape your lips – especially during the heat of the moment.
Hands up who’s ever said the wrong thing in bed – or been on the receiving end of any of these sexual clangers?
Should he be insulted that you didn’t either?
I’m not psychic, it’s just that very, very few women have an orgasm via intercourse the first time they have sex with a new partner. (Lots don’t have an orgasm the other 10,000 times either, but that’s another story.)
I know, I know, it’s much easier for him to climax than you so it’s different.
But the reason behind him not coming is the same reason you didn’t: the pressure is on and you’re both out to impress.