Question:
My girlfriend has been reading girlie magazines and after reading one article has said that she would like to “do me”.
I asked her what she meant and she clarified that she wants to buy a strap-on dildo and show me how it feels on her end. She’d also like me to use a ‘butt plug’ during sex.
I can’t figure out what (if any) satisfaction I would receive – other than the obvious fact of pleasing my girlfriend. The thought of something going in my rear end does disturb me rather.
Answer:
You won’t be the first guy to be perturbed at the thought of her wanting to go ‘there’. But there are reasons why you should at least give it a go.
The male G-spot – the prostate gland – is inside your rectum and once you get used to it being stimulated, it can deliver explosive orgasms like nothing you’ve ever experienced.
Try the butt plug first, to find out if you like anal play. You might not, in which case, just tell your girlfriend you gave it a go but it wasn’t your cup of tea.
Most people don’t mind their partner saying no, so long as they at least give it a try. Just ask her what else she’d like to experiment with – she sounds adventurous, I’m sure it’s not the only thing on her list!
OK, here’s a good action plan for your first time with a butt plug: Once you’re aroused, get her to apply lube to you or the vibe (or both) and run it around the rim of your anus.
She should very gently press and see if the anus ‘pulls’ the toy in. If it doesn’t, she should press gently until the toy’s inserted a little way. Even if it’s ‘pulled’ in, get her to penetrate slowly, stopping to let you get accustomed to something inside you.
Then simply leave it there once it’s in position and continue as normal. By the way, if you do enjoy it, it doesn’t mean you’re gay. Lots of straight men enjoy anal stimulation!
