Own a penis?
Congratulations: you’ll orgasm through intercourse around 80 per cent of the time.
Own a vulva?
Bad news – less than one in four women always orgasm through vaginal intercourse.
Why the orgasm gap?
Well, whoever designed the female body, put the clitoris outside the vagina. Given clitoral stimulation is responsible for almost all female orgasms, this is not helpful.
SO WHY DO SOME WOMEN MANAGE ORGASMS THROUGH PENETRATION AND NOT OTHERS?
Research suggests it’s probably because…
They’re grinding themselves against their partner’s body, which is stimulating the clitoris.
Their clitorises are anatomically closer to the vaginal entrance, which means that area is more likely to be ‘pulled’ by the act of thrusting, stimulating the erectile tissue of the clitoris.
Their clitoris is bigger than usual, so more likely to be ‘pulled’ in the same fashion as above.
The grinding we can all copy but relocating and enlarging a clitoris is not quite so easy (if at all!)
Happily, there are simpler ways to up the average female’s orgasm quota.
Here are the proven favourites.
THE FOUR BEST WAYS TO ADD CLITORIAL STIMULATION
ADD LUBE AND FINGERS: Yours or theirs – whichever suits the position (choose one which makes for easy access like doggie style or you on top).
Add a finger vibe to make this technique even more effective.
ADD A VIBRATOR: One of you can hold a slim classic shaped vibe in place or try a wearable vibe like the We-Vibe that you insert and leave in during intercourse (there’s an external bit that works on the clitoris).
Vibrating penis rings which sit at the base of the penis also work: just be sure to maintain contact through a grinding motion, rather than the usual pull back/push in motion of traditional thrusting. That way, the vibrator can work its magic.
TRY THE CAT TECHNIQUE: The coital alignment technique is a unique way of having intercourse which puts pressure on the bits that need it the most: the clitoris.
Your partner climbs on top, then positions themselves closer towards your head – riding high – so the base of their penis presses against the clitoris and pubic bone.
You then rock together rather than thrust in and out, keeping the pelvises tight for the right amount of pressure on the vulva.
