20 new things to do in bed this weekendEveryone knows you need to try new things to keep your sex life fresh and...
How to talk dirty (without sounding like an idiot)"I want to talk dirty but I don't want to sound like they do in...
Why do I have to be drunk to enjoy sex?Q: I never want sex unless I’ve had some wine. It relaxes me and gives...
The top 13 lust killersYou can’t have great sex if your relationship is in tatters. Identify the deadly sex...
The 10 different sex personalities: what’s yours?Forget everything you’ve ever heard about opposites attracting - in bed it’s far more helpful...
To bare or not to bare: the new etiquette for pubic hair, drunk sex and how much sex is enough sex?So, most of you will know that I am now doing a weekly podcast with...
Excuses, excuses: what to say if your partner won’t try new things in bedYou’re eagerly anticipating a feisty frolic, one hand hopefully hovering over your zip, and they...
Fit for sex: healthy genitals = happy sex lifeWe devise fitness regimes to give us bigger biceps or shapely bottoms but few people...
10 new ideas to get the most out of your anal toysThis is a series of posts designed to make sure you’re getting the most out...
10 new ideas to get the most out of your strokerThis series of posts are designed to make sure you’re getting the most out of...
A spot of slap and tickle: the beginner’s guide to spankingTheories on why a slap on the bottom feels sexy abound. Some say it’s the...
Want to have more mindful sex? Try Tantra, Taoism and the Kama SutraAncient ‘life manuals’ like the Kama Sutra might well be marvellously eccentric, slightly quirky and...
10 new ideas to get the most out of your G-spot vibeThis is a series of posts designed to make sure you’re getting the most out...
10 new ideas to get the most out of your rabbit vibratorThis series of posts are designed to make sure you’re getting the most out of...
Guilty pleasures: Am I weird for fantasising about that?Here’s a comforting thought: no-one’s worked out how to read minds yet. Which means it...
How to use a vibrator on a man"I’ve heard that men like vibrators used on them. But how and where and how...
18 sex treats to make this Valentine’s her best yetWondering how the hell to make this Valentine’s special when you can’t go to a...
Sex after surgery or illnessThis is a huge issue and something I can’t hope to do justice to in...
What do orgasms feel like?Do orgasms feel the same for everyone? Does his orgasm feel different than hers? Read...
The 10 lies (nearly) all of us tell about sexPeople lie about sex for two basic reasons: to protect a partner’s feelings or to...
Get your steamiest sex wish granted (without scaring him off)There’s a perception that women are the ones who react with horror if their partner...
8 last-minute sex toy gifts to suit everyoneGot that horrible, sweaty pre-Christmas panic going on because you still haven't come up with...
How to have an orgasm – for women who never haveThere's a lot written about the orgasm gap - how men almost always achieve orgasm...
Six quirky sex tricks to give you the X-factorPhotograph by Mahrael Boutros I’m often asked what makes a good lover. Enthusiasm is an...
You will never be good at oral sex unless you follow these six rulesPhotograph by Dainis Graveris Giving great oral is part attitude, part technique and a whole...
How to have the perfect argument in three easy stepsArguing more because you're both under more stress? Join the club: research suggests more than...
A hands-on guide to the most popular female masturbation techniquesWelcome to Lockdown 2: The Sequel. Sigh. The good news is, if you're working from...
Three simple ways to fix a broken body imageAnother day, another restriction imposed. And for lots of people, this means more nights in,...
Five great sex ‘kits’ to break the lockdown sex slumpPhotograph by Artem Labunsky One in ten of us haven’t had sex since lockdown began...
Sex through the decades: which one is the best?Like most things, sex gets better the more you do it and the more practised...
Energiser, connector, controller or stabiliser. What’s your sex personality?Are you an adventurous 'energiser' or a 'connector' who's more interested in connecting hearts than...
How to talk to your kids and teens about sexNo Shame should be compulsory reading for all parents. It’s – without a doubt –...- What do you do if your husband isn’t interested in sex anymore?Here's my latest video with the fabulous tonic magazine, where I give some workable solutions...
The cool, new sex toys we snapped up during lockdown (and you’ll want now)Some baked cookies and planted herb gardens. Others amused themselves by being a little less...
How to talk to your partner when sex stopsSex stops in relationships for all sorts of reasons. Sometimes, it's a natural break and...
Are your genitals making you unhappy?Image by Dainis Graveris In an ideal world, all of us would feel confident of...
It works for men but can ‘edging’ give women bigger, better orgasms?Image by Emiliano Vittoriosi on Unsplash It’s often used as a technique to teach men to...
These two things are life changers if sex is painful for youThis is the third in a three-part series for women who find sex painful. Part...
How to deal with painful sexThis is the second in a three-part series on how to deal with painful sex....
Why is sex painful for me?This is the first in a three part series on how to deal with painful...
How do I interest my partner in trying anal sex?The original version of this blog is seven years old. The reason why I've bothered...
How to stop your kids killing your sex lifeIt’s ironic that the product of sex – children - threatens the very thing that...
12 ways to make intercourse a whole lot more interestingIt’s not just the favourite part of sex for lots of men, intercourse is often...
Why are the Brits still the most reserved nation of all when it comes to sex?Just when you think times have changed and we're all talking openly and freely about...
Why can I only orgasm using my vibrator?Photo by Yohann LIBOT on unsplash I get asked a variation of this question around...
What’s the best order to follow if I want to explore anal play and anal intercourse?Photograph by Dainis Graveris on SexualAlpha There’s a very good reason why anal play and anal...
Are you doomed if you love your partner more than they love you?This article about unequal love first ran as my column on The MailOnline but I...
What are your options when your partner no longer wants to have sex with you?Sex stops in relationships for all sorts of reasons. But what options do you have,...
How to have a threesomePhotograph by Dainis Graveris on SexualAlpha Of all the things I write about, articles on...
Sex conversation startersIf there's one thing that shocked me when researching my latest book, Great Sex Starts...