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    Supersex Clitoral Vibe

    There's something about relaxing in water that makes most of us feel like having sex - probably because we're naked (in the bath or shower) or close to it (on the beach or in a hot tub).

    But there's a lot more to having an aquagasm than you think - and plenty of reasons why that hot tub on holiday is the last place you should be having sex!

    The Three Musts

    Use lots of lube! If you're having sex in either the shower or bath, you will need to add lots of lube and place it high in the vagina so it's not washed away. (Silicone lubes are more water-friendly, but water-based lubes like Supersex lovelube also work well.) Stop the second you feel yourself getting dry and reapply. If not, you'll risk getting 'micro-tears' - tiny cuts on your genitals. Not only do these make you feel sore, they also greatly up your chances of catching an STI or bacteria.

    Use protection. Remember you can still catch an STI and get pregnant in water. You can use a condom in water but the pull of the water means there's a much higher risk of it slipping off, so proceed with utmost caution and use back up contraception. If you do use one, put it on and take it off out of the water.

    Keep it simple. Water is, well, slippery. This means there's a much higher risk of either or both of you falling in a heap if you're attempting something challenging. This might end up with both of you in a fit of giggles. Or being taken to A&E. Don't chance it!

    If you really enjoy sex in the shower or bath, it's worth checking out some accessories like suction handles and footrests.

    Supersex G-Spot Vibrator

    A signature sex move is your personal sex stamp, something that only you do. If you blindfolded your lover and did it to them, they’d know it was you instantly - and love you for it because your ‘signature’ has to be something utterly mind-blowing.

    It might turn out to be a totally original, complex manoeuvre, known only to you and your lovers. (You’ve not only got it trademarked, your exes know if they so much as think of spilling your secret, you’ll send the boys around.)

    Or it could something as ingeniously simple as a twirl of the tongue, done with such panache, it defies description.

    Need a little help to work out your personal pièce de résistance?

    All it takes is a little thought and (perhaps) a lot of practice, and you'll have your own personal sex style down pat.

    Kama Sutra Book

    Here’s a sobering statistic: the majority of women have the majority of their orgasms through oral sex or masturbation.

    Depressing, yes, but unless we’re suddenly able to magically relocate the clitoris inside the vagina, we’re stuck with this basic design flaw!

    Here’s how to rework all your old favourite positions to give her a fighting chance.

    Lying Positions

    Zap life into the laziest lying position by going head to toe.

    This one’s dead simple: He lies on his back. Facing his feet, she straddles his hips and lowers herself onto his erect penis. Then she extends her legs backwards and leans forwards until her feet are next to his head and she’s lying on top of him.

    (Just to be clear: She’s facing one way, him another. His feet are near her head, her feet are near his.)

    Supersex Beginners Bondage Tape

    ‘Sexting’ - sending a lover or potential lover a titillating text - is a brilliant way to keep sex fresh and electrifying. Which is why nearly half of all Brits send sex texts to their partners - and one in nine does so daily, according to one study.

    Spontaneity disappears over time in most long-term relationships and anticipation is an excellent replacement.

    Sexting about past encounters or texting what you intend to do to your partner when you get home encourages what therapists call ‘simmering’.

    Simmering means arousing your partner in situations where sex is impossible. It sets off an erotic connection that keeps you both ‘on the boil’ sexually, making for hotter, more erotic encounters when you finally get to see each other.

    Would you like to try it but are not sure what to say? Here’s some helpful ‘how-tos' - and some rules to prevent your sexts from backfiring horribly.

    Tracey Cox Kegel Balls

    If it’s a casual hook up, then who really cares - but what about when you’re just about to have sex with someone special, that you hope is going to be around for a while… maybe even forever?

    Even if you’re in triple-figure territory with the number of people you’ve slept with, sex with someone you like and want to build a relationship with is a big deal.

    Contrary to popular opinion, lots of couples who see a future do wait a little while before having full, penetrative sex. We aren’t all diving into bed within the first five minutes.

    (Safe) sex with a stranger is far less daunting in many ways.

    Allowing someone you really like to see you nude - to feel, smell and taste your body and its fluids - does make you vulnerable. And we’re not even talking about the emotional complications and dangers intimacy implies - this is just the physical bit. The part when a million weird and worrisome thoughts spill into your brain faster than the champagne you’re gulping in a vain attempt to stop them.

    Supersex lubricant

    Sex is usually driven by things like lust, satisfaction and love - but sometimes it’s simply undertaken in the spirit of adventure, the desire to explore novel new ways to share one another’s bodies. These show-off sex positions appeal to the latter category, and what they might lack in longevity they more than make up for in entertainment.

    Whether you’re looking for a great giggle, fresh new sensations or locker room fodder to brag about with your pals (with permission), these ambitious arrangements are well worth a shot. Choose the position that's closest to an old favourite and shift into that when the going gets a little too tough!

    Tracey Cox Beginner's Soft Bondage Kit

    Having her strip for him is one of the most popular male sexual fantasies - but lots of women baulk at fulfilling it.

    Why? They’re worried they’re going to look like an idiot.

    Fear not! This simple, step-by-step guide will have you looking like a pro (in all the right senses!)

    10 Golden Rules

    Absolutely Totally Cannot Be Broken Rule No 1: You’re allowed to touch him but he’s not allowed to touch you. Not with his hands, mouth, tongue or penis. Only his eyes and imagination are allowed to roam.

    Absolutely Totally Cannot Be Broken Rule No 2: You must maintain eye contact with him throughout the performance.

    EDGE Adjustable Stamina Ring

    Penis rings are a popular boy toy for good reason: they make the penis look bigger, keep erections harder and make him last longer. If you choose one with a vibrator attached, they also up her chances or climaxing during intercourse. What’s not to love?

    The rings are worn at the base of the penis, often with a second ring behind the scrotum, and usually put on when your penis is semi rather than fully erect.

    If you’re particularly hairy, you might want to have a bit of a trim to avoid hairs getting caught, but otherwise a bit of lube is all you need to try one.

    Here’s how to pick the perfect penis ring for you.

    I want to last longer during intercourse or stay hard for longer

    Use a stretchy silicone ring such as one from the EDGE Supreme Endurance Set. Compared to other rings, these stretch the most and constrict blood flow most effectively.

    Top 5: The Best Sex Positions for... Romantic Sex

    Couples with the healthiest sex lives have all kinds of different sex: lusty sex, playful sex, make-up sex and loving sex.

    These five sex positions work well when you're feeling particularly loved- up - but also like a leg-over.

    Love and lust, romance and raunch: the perfect mix for great sex!

    Supersex Vibrating Butt Plug

    My final blog in the anal sex series talks specifically about any problems or issues you might have with anal play. I’d strongly suggest you also re-read the other three blogs (Part 1: Anatomy, Prep and Protection, Part 2: Fingering and Rimming or Anal Sex Prep Guide: Part 3: Positions and Techniques) for further clues as to what else might be causing problems.

    Common problems

    My partner won’t even consider anal play because they think it’s kinky!

    It’s not got the best reputation, anal play or anal sex. Guys think it means they’re gay if they enjoy it, plenty of people think it’s unhygienic and very few admit to liking it, even after a few down the pub.

    But a little anal play has transformed many a stale sex life simply because it feels entirely different to anything else you’ve experienced sexually. For that reason alone - the intense novelty of it - it’s well worth exploring in some form.

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