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    You meet someone, have a brilliant time, fancy the pants off them and can't wait to get to bed... Where you are bitterly disappointed. What should you do? Stay and hope for the best? Or move on before you get too attached?

    Some scenarios are fixable. Technique can be taught if you're willing to school a new lover in what you like, where and when.

    Ignorance about sex in general and a lack of understanding of how your sexual systems work is solved by buying them some good sex books as a present.

    Harder but also possible to change are things like reshaping someone's attitude to sex. If they've been brought up to believe sex is 'bad' or 'dirty', they may need counseling to reshape deeply ingrained beliefs - but it can still be done.

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    Genital massage has been around for thousands of years, but has only recently been discovered by western society - and westernised, of course! The true, unadulterated version draws heavily on the Kama Sutra and is preceded by all sorts of bizarre, complicated rituals. But for our purposes, we'll skip straight to the nitty-gritty. These techniques are easy to learn and can transform the most mediocre lover into a wow-honey-that-was-incredible sort overnight!

    Most of these techniques work best if she's lying on her back with her legs apart and you're kneeling between them. Put pillows under her knees and let her legs fall open naturally. You must use good quality lube for all of these techniques! Warm the lubricant by rubbing it between your fingers. Ask her to tell you which strokes feel best: firm or gentle (err on the side of gentle if you're unsure). She'll push against your hand if she wants more pressure. Keep the rhythm regular and don't chop and change techniques too much. Watch her face - if it's relaxed, so is her body.

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    When researchers asked a group of college kids which they'd pick if forced to live without either intercourse or oral sex, both sexes gave penetration the heave-ho. I'm with them! As much as a hard, throbbing erection is desperately appealing, a soft, warm tongue is damn near irresistible.

    So, with no further ado, here's a lick-by-lick guide to blowing his mind!

    Get into position:

    He stands and you sit facing him on the side of the bed (or a piece of furniture of the appropriate height). It's more comfortable for both of you and it leaves your hands free to stimulate his penis, nipples, testicles, perineum etc, without getting cramp.

    It also gives you control over how deeply he thrusts into your mouth. Some men say their legs go wobbly during orgasm but most can survive if they collapse on the bed immediately afterward!

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    Q: My husband wants me to use a vibrator on myself in front of him. I don't mind him using it on me but it's still not the same or as good as using it solo.

    He says he wants to watch me play with myself with it but I think I'd be too self-conscious.

    A: Some women are totally comfortable using their trusty vibe with their partners watching, some aren't. It's just a 'thing' we women have.

    We're so used to having to hide it away for fear men will be threatened by them, it's weird having to pull it out of the drawer and show what we get up to when he's not around!

    Then there's the fact that most women orgasm within minutes with their vibrator and take - ahem - slightly longer with their partners.

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    Q: I'm a 26-year-old man and a virgin. The reason I haven't had sex is that I'm worried I won't last long enough to please a woman.

    When I masturbate to pornography, I can orgasm in under a minute. Without it, I only last about 5 - 10 minutes. This clearly isn't long enough to satisfy a woman.

    A: You've fallen for so many myths about sex, I don't know which one to reassure you about first!

    Let's start with the one about how long intercourse usually lasts with a partner. Depending on which study you want to believe, it's between 5 and 13 minutes – and judging by the letters I receive, I'd say 5 is more accurate.

    If you can last that long masturbating yourself, bearing in mind no-one's going to know what you like more than you do yourself, you have nothing to worry about. Ejaculating quickly while watching porn is also extremely common. It stems from training your penis to get it over with quickly, for fear of getting caught.

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    Q: I'm nervous about sleeping with a girl I've been dating as I've suffered from premature ejaculation in the past.

    Should I warn her or is it better to keep quiet? She's really easy to talk to and I'm wondering if confessing would help me be less anxious. I don't want to embarrass myself the first time we do it.

    A: Talking nearly always helps solve any problem but it's especially useful in this scenario. (Well done for choosing a girl who is easy to talk to and you clearly feel comfortable with, by the way. This won't just help with PE but make solving any problem easier!)

    Men with PE often put having sex off for much longer than other guys, making her question if you fancy her at all. Not pouncing on her at the first opportunity is also the main culprit for those paranoid 'Maybe he's secretly gay' questions as she struggles to understand why you haven't made a move.

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    Premature ejaculation, or 'PE' isn't just a young man's problem. Statistics show that it affects at least 30% of the male population, young and old. It can be caused by a variety of things, from the size of your penis or your genes, to stress and confidence.

    It's not the 'be all or end all though', and there are some techniques and tools designed to provide both long and short-term relief to the problem. And they're not just for those with PE!

    In the fifth and final video in this series, Tracey explains the difference between chronic PE and acquired or situational PE – and how penis rings, delay sprays, strokers and condoms can all help delay ejaculation.

    This week, Tracey will be talking a little more about her new Adjustable Stamina Ring and Triple Stamina Ring Set. Each video in the series works in conjunction with Tracey's new EDGE range – a product range for men designed to help improve performance in bed.

    Scroll down to watch the video.

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    It's happened to every man at one point or another: an erection that isn't quite as hard as you'd have hoped for.

    Feeling stressed out, tired or a little tipsy can affect the strength of your erection, so it's important to keep this in mind when things don't rise as planned. Age, health and emotional state can all also play a part too – a calm, healthy penis is a happy penis, after all!

    In the fourth video in this series, Tracey introduces her Adjustable Stamina Ring and Triple Stamina Ring Set, and explains how these discreet penis rings work to make your erection harder and more impressive looking.

    Each video in the series works in conjunction with Tracey's new EDGE range – a product range for men designed to help improve performance in bed.

    Check out Tracey's EDGE collection to discover how her new range for men can boost pleasure and performance during solo and shared use. Scroll down to watch the video.

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    It's a big misconception that women want marathon sex sessions that go on for hours. In fact, surveys suggest that you don't need to last any longer than 13 minutes to satisfy your partner!

    The average man actually lasts around 2 minutes during intercourse before climaxing. In the third part of this series, international sex expert Tracey Cox explains how practicing a technique called 'peaking' can improve your sexual stamina.

    Tracey introduces the EDGE Stamina Sleeve, and explains how - with a little training - you can delay ejaculation and maintain control over your orgasms. And remember - practice makes perfect!

    Each video in the series works in conjunction with Tracey's new EDGE range – a product range for men designed to help improve performance in bed.

    Check out Tracey's EDGE collection to discover how her new range for men can boost pleasure and performance during solo and shared use. Scroll down to watch the video.

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    Your penis can't be in two places at once. It doesn't matter how skilled you are in the bedroom – the majority of women need clitoral stimulation during penetrative sex to reach climax, and a little help with this can help you achieve explosive results, for both of you!

    In the second part of this series, international sex expert Tracey Cox explains how you can ensure your partner orgasms as frequently as you do during penetrative sex. Tracey introduces the EDGE Vibrating Stamina Ring, and explains how it can boost erection strength, delay ejaculation and give your partner's clitoris the stimulation needed for orgasm. All the ingredients for incredible shared pleasure!

    Each video in the series works in conjunction with Tracey's new EDGE range – a product range for men designed to help improve performance in bed.

    Check out Tracey's EDGE collection and see how her new men's range can boost pleasure and performance during solo and shared use. Scroll down to watch the video.

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